Loss and pain is sometimes needed to grow
Have you ever wondered why you are being tested?
Many of us have experienced loss to some degree of severity in our lives and the pandemic has affected us all in terrible ways.
As we begin into a season of sunshine on the west, we remember those who are no longer with us. The loss of anyone is difficult and the strain and pain associated with loss can be emotionally crippling. NWES founder Kelvin Ali was asked about loss and here is what he had to say.
“For a Muslim, the greatest loss for us has already occurred. It is the loss of prophet Muhammad (saw) who had to deal with every situation a human being could encounter multiplied by 1000x in my humble opinion. That is the beauty of studying the Seerah, it gives us a context, to begin with when it comes to loss and how to deal with it through Prophetic advice and wisdom. The problem we all have as human beings is we take our situation to be unique and internalize pain upon ourselves for whatever feelings we have about our situation. Loss is never a good thing but for some people, including myself who have had to deal with incredible amounts of material treachery and personally with all three of the closest people in my life, my grandmother, my father, and my mother, having passed on from this world, the loss can become a motivating factor in your life. The struggle to not fail, to never give up on your dreams are sometimes what takes you to places you could never have imagined possible and those experiences can be leveraged to go to both extremes of the human condition so you have to maintain hope and have a balance. I chose not to let my losses in life, no matter how severe, debilitate my hope and trust that Allah (swt) will replace any material loss with better things. That doesn’t mean I didn’t have to put the time into work on myself and seek wisdom from professionals, it has to be part of the process, especially if you experience periods of grief often, and in my lifetime, I have found that when you are afflicted with severe tests, they come hard and relatively fast with little to no warning, so all you can do sometimes is close your eyes, re-center, take some very deep breaths and make du’a to begin the healing process. When we find our backs against the wall, the most successful of people I have met or studied lives of all began with a story of personal hardship and loss. A toil that they had to bear in order to become great. That’s how I can view loss, looking back on my life presently.”
Have you had to overcome a challenging time in life that helped you become a better person? Tell us your story, you may unknowingly be helping another dealing with a similar pain!
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