Flowers Anyone?

Around the world, people are celebrating St. Valentine’s Day today.

We asked Beyond Badr creator Kelvin Ali about this event,

“Wow, so it’s Valentine’s Day, well every day should be a day to celebrate someone you love with an act of kindness which can be as simple as a smile or a good word.

This event if you study history will reveal many pagan actions that many of us would consider detestable and some of us not so much. In today’s world, it is a seasonal marketing phenomenon that we’ve all become desensitized to, and when you are in a relationship and depending on the community and society you live in, these events will matter depending on your beliefs and your communication level with your partner. In the early stages of a relationship and in youth we are impulsive and want to put our best efforts in to woo our potential mates so during the early stages lot of influential memories are made. 

Before I became Muslim I was certainly influenced by this day because I didn’t know any better. I didn’t know anything about the roots, as a child, we would be influenced to buy little treats and give little friendship notes to encourage a love for each other and to make our friends feel acknowledged. So, in western ideology, this day and event are indoctrinated into all aspects of life. 

For myself, as I have studied western history and Islamic theology for many years now, I can tell you that this day when it occurred initially was one of infamy historically, but today no one really cares about the root influences, lots of people don’t read, and history for many is pretty low on the list often from my conversations and experience with others. 

My personal opinion is like on birthdays in the west, do what makes you happy, but realize this was not a practice of early Muslims if you are a practicing Muslim. It’s easy to follow influences and the crowd when mass events are happening. It’s what humans do often, so I would focus on being a good person today and every day. Like Mother’s Day, it isn’t one day a year you should celebrate your mother and if you are lucky enough to have someone who cares about you enough to acknowledge you with a sweet treat, bouquet of flowers, or special dinner, then try to make it a regular practice. 

It would be just as nice and maybe even more so to have someone acknowledge you with a token of appreciation on an unassuming Wednesday, but if it matters to your partner, you should know what they expect on this day or any other.  

What was the practice of the early Muslims? It was being good to one another, celebrating our parents, our spouses, and children in good ways often and each day, if possible, but they were human beings in a different time. Times will change and people will not so Sahabah’s wives sometimes spoke to them in ways that made them feel, not as powerful as their status would seem, so that will happen for all of civilization, being aware of what’s important is what really most and that involves communication.   

Being good to your mate, your family, your friends do take effort and at this time of year some people might expect a gift of chocolate or flowers, so my advice is you do what is good for your situation and household.

I randomly buy flowers or sweet treats at all times other than Valentine’s Day for my loved ones to show that I am thinking about them when they do not expect me to be dropping off things. The randomness of a cake or some small act of appreciation I found has brought the biggest smiles and hopefully memories to those I’ve been fortunate to meet in life.

The effect of flowers on any human is a good one, so enjoy your day, but more importantly, don’t forget the feelings you want to generate on this day for your loved one can actually be generated any day of the year. It starts with a positive intention and being grateful to have a special friend or family member in your world. A lot of people have been alienated and alone during the Pandemic and more than ever we all need to be kind to each other, so start with a good intention every day and it won’t matter what day of the year it is to feel loved or to make another one feel appreciated.” 

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