It’s a New Year and with this time of year comes those New Year Resolutions which we set for ourselves to conquer those personal and professional pursuits we all wish to achieve.
Some of us will seek professionals to assist us in our quests for excellence and the need to be coached, tutored, or even mentored can be a daunting task with gathering restrictions and capacity limits around the world during these years of the global Pandemic.
Everyone has become accustomed to Zoom and those who were able to use it effectively managed to thrive or simply survive and communicate with each other as physical interactions continue to be a challenge in so many parts of the world.
Remote medicine, remote work, remote school, many of us are all zoomed out but as an adaptive tool to an extreme circumstance, we have all managed to become a little more tech-savvy and comfortable speaking into cameras.
Have you ever considered a personal or professional coach?
What is a coach? What does a coach do? What kind of coach do I need to help me?
Many of us had had a coach in some form or another and we asked Madani Chronicles creator and NWES founder Kelvin Ali about his coaching experience.
“As a leader who is responsible for the well-being of others understanding how to help others excel and achieve excellence is critical for success in both life and in business.
I was lucky to have grown up learning from great leaders in the personal development space and also loved keeping fit and playing soccer for many years on the recreational fields of Toronto.
When you are part of a team sport in any capacity you need leaders to motivate, inspire, direct, criticize and give you feedback to help you grow and develop in your position. You have to work to get more minutes of playing time.
During university, I would randomly read books in the University Library that were unrelated to my field of study or electives. I once found myself in the Psychology section reading about Lucid dreaming and would eventually select books about Neuro-Linguistic Programming from Richard Bandler and John Grinder. As the knowledge became more familiar, I would invest in my first personal self-improvement program called Personal Power, a set of cassette tapes by Anthony Robbins as infomercials were evolving on television. Since that time, I’ve never looked and attended many live events and programs I never thought I could ever afford. I always knew in my heart that these were incredibly powerful and essential leadership skills that I needed in order to develop and breakthrough to higher levels of personal and professional success.
Several years later I would continue on that road to personal excellence completing a coaching certification in 2008 and I felt competent enough to be able to help coach others. This was never a career option as I already had a professional career and I just wanted to work on myself first and foremost.
I found over all these years that so many people will never take the next steps to work on themselves and also to invest in themselves when it comes to personal 1:1 coaching. People often underestimate their self-worth and potential and then they spiral over time into a place where they are at a level of bare minimum comfort and then personal growth remains stagnant. Time wages on and years pass and it’s ‘I could have, I should have, or the world is against me’ and then wasted time will collect its toll, and regret eventually sets in which leads to all kinds of self-inflicted mental trauma. You don’t want to get to the end of your life saying, ‘I wish I had…’
You can overcome any obstacle in life if you know what questions to ask and when to ask them and that is essentially what a coaching session is. Asking tough questions from various areas of your life after doing various assessments. It’s about planning a goal or several staying on track and being held accountable.
That is where the fear sets in. Like being picked on in high school by a teacher when you don’t know the answer and publicly shamed for your lack of doing the homework, coaching is kind of like that, only it should be highly confidential and your coach should be impartial and an excellent listener.
I have had all kinds of teachers and coaches over my life and I get why people are afraid at times to seek support. Oftentimes people just don’t know how great they can be with the right support structure in place. Discipline, hard work, consistent effort, and reflection with gratitude are things that you will have to be willing to do coupled with financial investment in yourself. You need to plan. If you need support with your plan then a coach may be an option for your goal.
Coaching is something that the actual coach has to be passionate about. People will speak and share vulnerable parts of their lives so put trust in you to help them accomplish an objective, mission, or goal competently.
As a coach, you have to honour them because it’s their journey and sometimes a coach needs to kick you in the ass to stay focused and driven. That kick, hopefully, will never be a physical one from your coach, but it should be a verbal one through effective questioning.
I would need to know if a person is going to be serious before I spend a block of time on them to support their goals because my calendar is set months in advance and we have several real-time productions on the go so my ability to take on or help others is something I have to build into my schedule and I’ve allocated a block of time to this for 2022. I will help some people foster grit this year. God Willing.”
In early 2020, during the lockdown, Kelvin decided to dust off the old books of his coaching certification and revisit the latest best practices currently in the industry in order to guide himself and our teams in ways we all benefitted immensely from.
Last year some of us were privy to coached 1:1 by Kelvin for the entire program and it was an incredible professional development experience indeed with every participant recording improvements in all areas of life after the 12-week program.
We encourage you to check out our NWES accelerated learning platform launching this March 2022. For the first time, open to the public, an application portal will be available to have the opportunity to apply to be selected for 1:1 coaching with Kelvin if you meet the eligibility criteria. This new 12-week personal development curriculum is indeed world-class, very exclusive, and very limited, and we wanted our blog readers and fans to hear about it here first!
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